Hello @Noteasybeingme I really sense the level of strain you have experienced by giving so much to your parents with cancer and now your husband with the accident.
That is huge.
I'm so sorry you were faced with seemingly no other option the other day. It must have felt so raw but I know you were really desperate and felt like there was no other choice
However I don't think you were thinking clearly and neither was your husband the other day after showing him the actual screenshots. I'm sorry that happened calling your honesty into question on top of that. Its been resolved now but the situation you face remains the same
You sound like a loving and devoted partner and daughter who has made enormous self sacrifice because you cared about your family. It does not seem right or fair that you have been denied financial support like carers pension or NDIS.
I know you are reserved about yourself, I'm a bit that way myself. I sense you are really upset, depressed and just plain lonely though and thats understandable after what you've been put through all those years.
You have been overwhelmed and this has led to these extreme emotions that have guided you recently
Has anyone ever asked how you are feeling, whether you are coping or trying to understand with compassion that you may have reached the end of your tether?
I think it crucial that you yourself have acknowledged these feelings now and I think its great you are here trying to get support and understanding about your needs and concerns.
The immediate family unit is so fragile, it can't be expected to weather the storms of life. We live in a self interested culture where the concept of family is not prized where by in other cultures the family and connections made are really important and people support eachother. I have often wondered whether I could have been able to move to Mexico! lol Its always been a dream, Mexico is a beautiful family oriented caring culture.
I think start embracing more self compassion with yourself as you have given this to your family. You have afforded this to others regarding their limitations in the past and now you must do this for yourself.
BTW I try and engage in self nurturing activities. I can't afford hobbies but meditate which can be used as an escape from unpleasant realties I go deep with brain entrainment. I love alternate journalism, literature, health and the world of crystals. I have seen walking in nature can be very rejuvenative whether its in bushland, a botanic park or by the ocean.
If I feel like I need relief from things pressed into the shallow recesses of the mind i use Lapis Lazuli crystal - it provides objectivity and endurance especially during the situations that have caused me some measure of emotional bondage. It also acts as an escape valve for any smouldering emotions I may experience as a result of living under trying circumstances. I also use it as a way to be able to decipher those action steps to move forwards. I place it over my third eye and my dreams offer me counsel about what to do next.
These are some of the things I do. I don't know if any of it appeals or resonates.
You will however get lots of understanding and support on here. Its a lovely community full of beautiful people.
I hope you are feeling somewhat better today 🙂 You have my interest and support
